Make God Numero Uno!

So about a month ago I got this fabulous idea to write this blog along with the wonderful man in my life, Noah. Well since then a lot has been going on, lots of busyness, tough times, learning, growth, and neither of us have really had the opportunity to really commit to this blog. But over the last few days we have both been learning something very crucial, so I wanted to make sure to make time to share.

Mark 17:28-30 " One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?”
²⁹ “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. ³⁰ Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength."

The most crucial part of a relationship, is God. Ask yourself, where is God in your relationship? Is God number 1 in your heart, in your focus? Do you fear God? Do you seek to love, serve, and please God? Is God your first love? Is God the first one you turn to for comfort, guidance, love, and protection? Are your eyes fixed on God? Is God on the pedestal in your life?

For the last few weeks or even months or so, the answer to all of those questions were "no" for me and Noah. That had a huge effect on our relationship! Because we lost sight of God, things happened that we never imagined we would let happen, evil grew and grew in our hearts and minds, and we hurt each other in such terrible ways, creating wounds that will take so much time to heal. Our love for each other became shallow and dry and things just never seemed right. All of this happened because instead of making God number 1 in our lives, we gave each other that position.

Sometimes in a relationship you can get so caught up in things, and you start to think that what's best is to put each other as number 1 in your heart. You start to wake up each day thinking about how can you be the best girlfriend or boyfriend, how can you please your significant other, how can you serve them and make them happy. That's what starts to be on the forefront of your mind. It sounds great and like the right thing to do, right? Actually it doesn't always work out too good.

Over the last few weeks the phrase that's been most common in me and Noah's vocabulary, is "I just want to please you." That's what we have told each other nearly every day. What we focus so much of our time and energy on is pleasing each other. We set out each day to find out how to please each other. When we are successful, we feel good about ourselves, when we seem to fail, we feel hurt, inadequate, and worthless. The phrase "you don't please me enough" has caused so many scars on our self esteem. We have gone to so many extremes to please each other. That's what happens when your sole focus in your relationship is on each other. You experience a lot of hurt more than anything.

Over the last week me and Noah have realized that something isn't quite right in our relationship. So we have gone to God about it, and God opened our eyes in the last few days and has shown us the problem. The problem is, we don't put Him first!

God needs to be first! Always!  It is so important that your focus in on the One Above. Instead of trying to shape ourselves into perfect girlfriends and boyfriends, husbands and wives, we need to allow God to shape us into godly and holy men and women. We need to seek to please God, to serve Him, to love Him first. When we allow God to be our Master, to be number 1 in our lives, that's when things start to fall into place. When we are growing closer to God and are becoming godly men and women, that's when we can exhibit the fruits of the Spirit as Galatians 5:22-23 mention, or love as 1 Corinthians 13 shows us, those things which help our relationships to function and grow.

^"7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. ⁸ Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. ⁹ This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. ¹⁰ This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. ¹¹ Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. ¹² No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us." 1 John 4:7-12


God teaches us how to love in the right way. But if we are not focusing on His love for us, if we don't have our eyes on Him, then we miss out on that teaching. God is the one who will show us how to love each other right, how to be good girlfriends and boyfriends and then wives and husbands, but in order for Him to show us that, we need to turn to Him. God wants us to be loving. He wants us to love each other! But that right kind of love comes from Him. Inside we have fleshly sinful natures which keep us from truly being loving. Galatians 5 tells us that our flesh has the opposite character from what God wants. But when we aren't focusing on God, our flesh is what comes through, and that means that in your relationships, you aren't going to be as loving as you should. We need to walk in the Spirit, and that involves a close relationship with God, having Him as our focus. 


Always stop to check yourself and see where your heart is. Make sure that God is number 1 in your heart. When God is number 1, when we allow Him to work in us, show us what we need to do, help us grow and mature, that's when things fall into place, that's when your relationship can really blossom and grow into something beautiful! 


That's all for now folks! God Bless! :) 


Gabs :)